Hand out 7: Program: “Los abuelitos tambien son familia”

PROGRAM OF FORMATION ON PASTORAL CARE FOR SENIORS (7)
•    Grief as the personal emotional reactions that follow a loss. •    Bereavement refers to the experiences that follow the death of a
loved one. •    Mourning thus represents the culturally accepted
expression of the personal feelings that follow the death of
a loved one. Phases of grief:
1. Feelings of shock, disbelief, and numbness. These feelings are actually believed to be adaptive in the sense that they protect the person from the severe pain of bereavement.
2. Behaviors characterize the second phase: thinking a lot about the deceased, which is often followed by feelings of guilt, trying to find a reason why the deceased died, and finally, a tremendous longing for the deceased, manifested in such ways as dreaming about the deceased, or even speaking to him or her.
3. Final phase – recovery. Recovery comes about due to conscious and concerted efforts by the bereaved, who realizes that there is no sense in dwelling on the loss, and that he or
she has a lot of other responsibilities to take care of.
Worden (1991) proposes four tasks of mourning.
Task 1: Accept the reality of the loss. This can be enhanced by viewing the corpse, attending memorial services, and funerals.
Task 2: Work through the pain of grief. Trying to avoid pain can actually prolong the course of mourning and may lead to abnormal grief.
Task 3: Adjust to an environment in which the deceased is missing. This task principally involves cognitive readjustment.
Task 4: Emotionally relocate the deceased and move on. This does not really call for a complete disengagement from the deceased, but rather, to find a more suitable place for the deceased in the life of the survivor so as to enable the survivor live an effective life (Shuchter & Zissok, 1986).
Copyright: Dr. G. Marquez

PROGRAMA DE FORMACION: CUIDADO PASTORAL DE PERSONAS DE LA TERCERA
EDAD (7) •    Grief(Pesar/dolor): es la reacción emocional
que sigue a la perdida de un ser querido •    Bereavement (Desamparo): es la experiencia
que sigue a la muerte de un ser querido •    Mourning (luto): diferentes formas culturales de expresar los sentimientos que siguen a la
muerte de un ser querido. Etapas de dolor/pesar:
1. Sentimientos de impacto, incredulidad y parálisis. Estos sentimientos son considerados adaptivos en el sentido de que protegen a la pesona del severo dolor que conlleva la pérdida de un ser querido.
2. Conductas que caracterizan la segunda fase: pensar mucho en la persona perdida, a veces con sentimientos de culpa, tratando de encontrar la razón por la cual ha partido, y finalmente sentir el vacío que la persona ha dejado –soñando con ella e incluso hablando con ella.
3. Etapa final –recuperación. La recuperación es posible cuando la persona hace esfuerzos conscientes por salir de la reacción a la muerte del ser querido recordando que no puede recuperarlo y que
tiene otras responsabilidades que tiene que cubrir. Worden (1991) propone cuatro tareas a llevar a cabo durante el luto: Tarea 1: Aceptar la realidad de la pérdida. Ver el cadaver del ser querdio,
atender a su funeral y a las servicios religiosos ayuda a lograr esta tarea. Tarea 2: Aceptando el dolor/pesar como una consequencia lógica de la pérdida. Tratar de evitar el dolor lo que hace es prolongar los sentimientos asociados
con el dolor y el desamparo que siguen a la pérdida. Tarea 3: Adaptarnos física, emocional y conscientemente a el medio ambiente
que compartimos con la persona querida. Task 4: Emocional y cognitvamente relocalizar el recuerdo del ser querido
emocionalmante como alguien que ha muerto y no está más presente. (Shuchter & Zissok, 1986).
Copyright: Dr. G. Marquez

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Dr. Gelasia Marquez is an immigrant clinical and bilingual school psychologist. Dr. Marquez has studies, researches, articles, and programs aimed to help immigrant Hispanic children, adolescents and families in their processes of transition after migration